"It's not the Time for Me to Jump in."

Nowadays, I see everyone in my friend’s list is getting either committed or married or engaged. Well, congrats to all of them. And may God bless them. But, at times I feel, are they in hurry or I am being indifferent towards this marriage thing. God Knows!

I seriously feel, I need to do well in my career. Though I am not anti-marriage, I’ll certainly get settled. But, I am not in hurry. I am career- focused right now. And that bothers me more than anything else. Seriously, my mummy arranged dates for me😂. Well, In my last FB status post regarding this Blog post a friend of mine name Nabam Pia comment- "From childhood marriage is somewhat difficult decision for her, whenever she approach such decision, She feel that its not her time or even She don't know why She stay back. She also says that she think, she will die spinster." Apart from this comment, a brother from different parent of mine comment too regarding my post. He comment (Neeya Techi Tara)- "Everybody has their own Philosophy about their marriage talks. He even says, before validity end, we should get married because there is no value of expiry things."

They say, priorities change once you are married. Well, may be I don't know. I'm not married yet so no comments. It might be right.

Now days, I find my committed friends giving advices to me that I should also get married or engaged or something like that. During this discussion, I discovered a male mindset which I found very disappointing.

While discussing, a guy said that girls who study out of state are not marriageable and 2 others supported him. Which shocked me, hurt me and badly disappointed me.

Now, my simple question is guys can grow in their lives, guys can work in abroad, guys can study abroad. Then WHY CAN’T GIRLS?

If a guy expects his girl to support him for his career moves, his decisions, his opportunities then WHY CAN’T A GIRL EXPECT THE SAME?

In which world am I living! Which century! which environment! Where people have changed their dress up sense, lifestyles, culture but the thought process is still so small and biased.

In the end in any relationship, whether it’s parental, couple, friendship, brother-sister or any other relation, its all about faith and trust. If it’s not there then relationship is of no use.

I have seen guys and girls cheating on their better halves in normal routine lives with a very settled boring in there own hometown. What I feel is people cheat when they are bored of their monotonous life while for some people it’s simply their character which can’t be changed. What is there to do with studying outside your state?

One should feel content and satisfied in their lifestyle and it can only be there when they will do well in their personal and professional lives. I agree, with time priorities do change but does that mean you stop growing in life?

Every individual needs their space to grow, whether it’s personal or professional, whether it’s a girl or a guy.

We live in a world where we are raised in a family where guys and girls are treated as equal. They are provided with equal facilities and equal respect. They dream individually to grow in their lives. At least, I can say this for myself that I'm really happy and proud to say that my family gave me and my brother kinda upbringing where we understand guys and girls deserves equal space.

I don't know why, I am so disappointed with this kind of mentality of guys. I feel sorry for them. Honesty. What kinda upbringing their kids will ever get. Where our country will move. Gosh! Even though guys pretend to be so modern and open minded that they want to walk with a lady wearing a pair of jeans but not an independent outlook towards their career!

Well, may be it’s only me who thinks this way. But yes, It’s indeed sad!